vhost-net: flush outstanding DMAs on memory change

vhost-net: flush outstanding DMAs on memory change

When memory map changes, we need to flush outstanding
DMAs as they might in theory reference old memory addresses.
To do this simply stop initiating new DMAs
and wait for ubufs ref count to drop to 0.
Afterwards reset the count back to 1.

Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>