FASTOPEN setsockopt() or sendmsg() may switch the SMC socket to fallback
mode. Once fallback mode is active, the native TCP socket functions are
called. Nevertheless there is a small race window, when FASTOPEN
setsockopt/sendmsg runs in parallel to a connect(), and switch the
socket into fallback mode before connect() takes the sock lock.
Make sure the SMC-specific connect setup is omitted in this case.
This way a syzbot-reported refcount problem is fixed, triggered by
different threads running non-blocking connect() and FASTOPEN_KEY
setsockopt.