drm: rework delayed connector cleanup in connector_iter

drm: rework delayed connector cleanup in connector_iter

PROBE_DEFER also uses system_wq to reprobe drivers, which means when
that again fails, and we try to flush the overall system_wq (to get
all the delayed connectore cleanup work_struct completed), we
deadlock.

Fix this by using just a single cleanup work, so that we can only
flush that one and don't block on anything else. That means a free
list plus locking, a standard pattern.

v2:
- Correctly free connectors only on last ref. Oops (Chris).
- use llist_head/node (Chris).

v3
- Add init_llist_head (Chris).

Fixes: 15fac6003fbb ("drm: safely free connectors from connector_iter")
Fixes: 900230512ce0 ("drm: locking&new iterators for connector_list")
Cc: Ben Widawsky <ben@bwidawsk.net>
Cc: Dave Airlie <airlied@gmail.com>
Cc: Chris Wilson <chris@chris-wilson.co.uk>
Cc: Sean Paul <seanpaul@chromium.org>
Cc: <stable@vger.kernel.org> # v4.11+: 900230512ce0 ("drm: locking&new iterators for connector_list"
Cc: <stable@vger.kernel.org> # v4.11+
Cc: Daniel Vetter <daniel.vetter@intel.com>
Cc: Jani Nikula <jani.nikula@linux.intel.com>
Cc: Gustavo Padovan <gustavo@padovan.org>
Cc: David Airlie <airlied@linux.ie>
Cc: Javier Martinez Canillas <javier@dowhile0.org>
Cc: Shuah Khan <shuahkh@osg.samsung.com>
Cc: Guillaume Tucker <guillaume.tucker@collabora.com>
Cc: Mark Brown <broonie@kernel.org>
Cc: Kevin Hilman <khilman@baylibre.com>
Cc: Matt Hart <matthew.hart@linaro.org>
Cc: Thierry Escande <thierry.escande@collabora.co.uk>
Cc: Tomeu Vizoso <tomeu.vizoso@collabora.com>
Cc: Enric Balletbo i Serra <enric.balletbo@collabora.com>
Tested-by: Marek Szyprowski <m.szyprowski@samsung.com>
Reviewed-by: Chris Wilson <chris@chris-wilson.co.uk>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Vetter <daniel.vetter@intel.com>
Link: https://patchwork.freedesktop.org/patch/msgid/20171213124936.17914-1-daniel.vetter@ffwll.ch