libceph: fix fault locking; close socket on lossy fault

libceph: fix fault locking; close socket on lossy fault

If we fault on a lossy connection, we should still close the socket
immediately, and do so under the con mutex.

We should also take the con mutex before printing out the state bits in
the debug output.

Signed-off-by: Sage Weil <sage@inktank.com>