rds: don't let RDS shutdown a connection while senders are present

rds: don't let RDS shutdown a connection while senders are present

This is the first in a long line of patches that tries to fix races
between RDS connection shutdown and RDS traffic.

Here we are maintaining a count of active senders to make sure
the connection doesn't go away while they are using it.

Signed-off-by: Chris Mason <chris.mason@oracle.com>