RDMA/iw_cxgb4: atomic find and reference for listening endpoints

RDMA/iw_cxgb4: atomic find and reference for listening endpoints

Add get_ep_from_stid() which will atomically find and reference the
endpoint struct if found. This avoids touch-after-free races between
threads destroying listening endpoints and the CPL processing thread
processing an incoming PASS_ACCEPT_REQ CPL.

Signed-off-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Hariprasad Shenai <hariprasad@chelsio.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>