vhost-net: fix use-after-free in vhost_net_flush

vhost-net: fix use-after-free in vhost_net_flush

vhost_net_ubuf_put_and_wait has a confusing name:
it will actually also free it's argument.
Thus since commit 0f97eddf067693735628cca3d65c829b9cf4d2bd
    "vhost-net: flush outstanding DMAs on memory change"
vhost_net_flush tries to use the argument after passing it
to vhost_net_ubuf_put_and_wait, this results
in use after free.
To fix, don't free the argument in vhost_net_ubuf_put_and_wait,
add an new API for callers that want to free ubufs.

Acked-by: Asias He <asias@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>